One of my coaching clients that I speak about in my ebook (we will just call her Andrea) was living a very common quote that goes
"why buy the cow, when you can get the milk for free"
....as some women do knowingly.
Her particular situation was dating a married man
Let's not get all holier than thou and act like we've never seen a woman dating a married (but separated man) with the idea that he is getting a divorce,
...he just never seems to get around to it.
Probably because he has no incentive to.
Yes he may love you, yes he may really be 100% done with his ex-wife, but if he's getting all the benefits of a committed relationship with you
...what's the rush in filing for a divorce? When essentially nothing will change!
It's no different than women who are in relationships with men who won't put a title on it.
You've given him EVERYTHING before any sort of commitment so why would he rush to put a title on it and tie up his options
Why put a ring on it when he's already getting all the benefits of a wife...
and so on and so forth.
I gave Andrea very specific advice on how to move forward with this married soon to be separated man (including the various reasons why dating a man who isn't officially divorced is a DANGEROUS mistake!)...
There are so many variables that play a part in why a man doesn't take the necessary actions he may need to take to make you happy
I discuss them all plus reveal the answers to what I advised Andrea to do in my book 'He's Lying Sis'