How To Make A Long Distance Relationship Work

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Long-distance relationships aren’t that easy. It takes a lot of effort for it to work out. It takes even more to have a thriving relationship that’s long distance.

Whether you’re in a long-distance relationship or not, you can benefit from knowing how to make things work when you’re not with your mate 24/7.

Read ahead and find out how you can make the most of your long-distance relationship (this actually applies to every relationship but for the sake of this post, we’ll specifically focus on my long distance relationships out there).

1. Communication must be your priority.

Let me guess… you probably read that heading and thought, “Well of course it should be a priority!”

And you’re right. It should be a priority whether you’re in a long distance relationship or not, but let me remind you that there’s a difference between communication and effective communication.

Effective communication is more than the simple, good morning and good night calls or texts but more of what is happening in each other’s lives while you’re apart.

It also includes knowing how to properly express your feelings without being combative or confrontational, communicating in a way that speaks to your partner’s love language, and learning how your partner best communicates also.

Time is crucial so both of you must be committed to consistently connecting with each other every day.

2. You and your partner should create a structure.

Create a structure by getting clear on what both of your relationship goals are. 

This can include fun routines, implementing guidelines that build trust, or anything related that keeps you committed to making your relationship work.

Once you’ve decided on a structure that works for your relationship, the two of you must be committed to fulfilling each other’s roles and duties.

When your structure is successfully implemented, you’ll notice that it will make your relationship stronger because you and your partner are more grounded and in tune with one other’s needs. 

3. Don’t lose spontaneity. 

The number 3 key to making a long distance relationship work is be spontaneous. I do highly believe you have to implement structure, but that doesn't mean you can’t ever be spontaneous.

You always want to do things to throw some flavor into the relationship. Everything doesn't always have to fall within the agreed structure.

Maybe there is a surprise visit depending on the relationship you guys have and if you guys have an understanding that that's an acceptable thing.

Maybe it's just a surprise call, maybe it's a surprise random picture that you send your partner to brighten up their day.

You still want to do little things here and there that are spontaneous because that breaks the normal rhythm you guys have, but make sure to break it in a good way.

With long distance relationships, I don't want to say, out of sight, out of mind because when we're really into someone, they're really not out of mind even when they are out of sight.

Again, it can get difficult when we're not always connecting on a level that we want to and when I say connecting, I mean more so engaging on the level that we want to.

Those little surprise things, it just helps to keep your relationship fresh. It grows a stronger bond and it really helps to strengthen the relationship.

So, when you’re in a long distance relationship, always consider doing one of those special things for your partner.

Of course, make sure sure to learn your partner, learn the things that they like that they're going to enjoy and appreciate and tap into that and add that to the formula of making this long distance relationship work.


These are just a few tips that I have for you today, and to get the more tips to make your long-distance relationship thrive, click on the link below to watch my Youtube video: ⇒ How To Make A Long Distance Relationship Work


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Your coach,

Stephan Speaks


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