All it takes is one lie to ruin a relationship but unfortunately, that hasn't stopped people from telling lies. There are some men that choose to lie over and over again.
I know you’re wondering why can't these men just be honest. What is the purpose of the lie? That’s why today we're going to talk about the 5 reasons why men lie to women to guide and give you answers to your questions.
Before we get into it, let me just say that men and women lie. People lie, it's a habit that a lot of people engage in, but I'm going to explain to you why some men continue to do it.
This is not only applicable to men but also can be applied to women. But in this blog post, we're going to focus on the motives of why most men lie.
1. He's not comfortable opening up to you.
The reality is that in general a lot of men struggle with opening up because they’ve not been raised to be expressive and transparent in most cases.
Especially when it comes to feelings and concerns. Unfortunately, a lot of men have had moments where they were vulnerable, they opened up, and either at that moment they were shut down by their partner or they were disrespected, devalued, or were called weak for sharing their thoughts.
No one wants to receive disrespect in exchange for their vulnerability.
This is the main reason why men usually act tough. This is what people expect them to project or show at all times which causes men to be distant and not show their vulnerability to avoid judgement. This can not only be a turn off for women, but from other people in general.
As a man, he has to be willing to address that issue and heal from the things that have hurt him.
But as a woman or a partner, you do have to understand what environment you are creating for your man. Is it one that promotes honesty, transparency, and vulnerability?
You, as a partner, have to show that you can handle that honesty and that level of transparency he's going to bring.
You have to know how to not make him uncomfortable, know how to not make him regret being open with you.
It takes empathy and understanding, but you can reach this level with your partner if you work at it.
2. He keeps lying because you accept it.
Here's the reality for all the ladies out there: your intuition is very strong and on point. There have been plenty of times where you knew good and well that a man was lying to your face.
There have been signs of him being dishonest, but you accepted his explanation not because it made sense, but because you didn't want to face the reality of his lies.
Most of you have overlooked the lies because you wanted to keep the relationship going, not because you actually believed him.
This is a huge reason as to why men keep on lying: it’s because you tolerate it. It can be hard to accept the truth but you have to brace yourself for the result of that honesty.
Don’t settle for someone who lies and is dishonest with you - no one deserves that.
3. He's just not that serious about you.
Talk about being bracing yourself for the truth! The honest truth is that he's just not that interested in you. And this is ok! You're not for everyone and everyone isn't for you.
The reality is that when we aren’t serious about people, we're not going to hold ourselves to a high standard. We're not going to come as correct as we should.
A man is going more likely to lie in a casual relationship than he is with a woman he's very serious about or feels that he's in love with.
There's more desire to make sure he doesn't mess things up. Whereas with the casual situation, it's like a man has nothing to win or lose because he’s just in a relationship for his own reasons and not really considering his partner.
Just be careful and don’t be in denial when you’re seeing this. You have to recognize quickly if someone isn’t serious enough about you or if someone is not on the same page as you.
It's important to understand whatever the reason is why your partner lies and don’t tolerate it. It can literally be the difference between you wasting your time or creating a deeper connection with your partner.
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